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Madeline May “Gubby” Doughty, 94, of Auburn, Maine, passed peacefully in her sleep on the evening of December 2nd, 2023.
Madeline was born to Chester and Adeline Bragdon May on July 11, 1929, in their home at Sabbathday Lake in New Gloucester.
The Great Depression was just beginning and the young family lived with Chester’s parents Melvin and Maggie Costello May. Around 1934 Madeline’s grandparents bought a farm on Cobb’s Bridge Road in New Gloucester, and the family moved there together. Madeline often told stories of her love for the farm animals, especially their cows.
She graduated from New Gloucester High School in 1949 in a class which included her sister Barbara and 10 other students. With fondness she told stories of her school days and schoolmates in New Gloucester, a town which she loved until the end of her days.
Madeline went to work at a young age as a telephone operator for Pine Tree Telephone and Telegraph, a job which she loved and talked about all her life.
In August of 1960 she married Bernard Doughty of Gray and became the step-mother of his three young daughters, Sharon, Bernita, and June. They made their home on Opportunity Farm Hill in New Gloucester. In December of 1961, they happily welcomed their first child together, Bryan. Their joy was short-lived, however, as Bryan passed away before leaving the hospital. Madeline never fully recovered from the trauma of losing her baby.
In 1963, they welcomed their daughter Linda, and shortly thereafter moved down the hill to the lower corner. By 1968, their family was complete with the addition of their two sons, Alan and Duane.
As the family schedule permitted, Madeline worked part time at The Phil-O-Mar Restaurant in Auburn, and Cole Farms in Gray. When her children got older, she started work as a switchboard operator at Central Maine General Hospital in Lewiston, now known as Central Maine Medical Center.
In 1980, her husband Bernard passed away. At that time she was working at Pineland Center, and stayed there until retirement age. True retirement was not Madeline’s cup of tea. She needed to work and thrived on it. She became a Foster Grandparent for the volunteer Foster Grandparent Program. She went to work again for short stints at Enercon and Burger King in Gray until she found her niche working at Sedgewood Commons in Falmouth where she cared for patients with Alzheimer's and Dementia, some who were younger than she was. After a while she started working closer to home and was employed at Sarah Frye Nursing Home in Auburn, until a knee injury made it physically impossible for her to perform her duties there. She decided to return to the Foster Grandparents program which she had enjoyed so greatly in the past. She deeply loved the little ones she worked with, especially the head-start children. Many parents commented to her about how much their children loved their foster grammy. She would often give a bit of extra attention to little ones who were having a hard time with the expectations of preschool. By this time she was in her 80’s and still wanted to do more. She started working in the evenings as a greeter at Walmart in Auburn. Her busy work schedule could put younger people to shame. She maintained this schedule until she was 86 years old, when declining health finally required her to stop working once and for all. Even then, she often mentioned that she wished she could find work to do at home.
After her working years came to an end, she enjoyed spending Sundays going to church, shopping, and going for drives with her son Alan. She was a member of Bible Believing Baptist Church in Gray. She also attended The Church of the Nazarene in Mechanic Falls.
She greatly enjoyed the company of her brother Bud and his wife Judy. After Judy’s passing, Madeline would often travel with Bud and his companion, Faye, to places around New England and New York State. She also enjoyed many hours playing Rummy with her daughter-in-law Linda (Statz) Doughty.
Madeline devoted much of her time to caring for her beloved grandchildren. She was always interested in everything they were doing and was immensely proud of all of them. Madeline had the joy of seeing her family expand with the additions of two grandsons-in-law and one granddaughter-in-law in the last three years, and the addition of three beautiful great grandchildren, Elliot, Maria, and Ryder, all born this year. She had resided for the last two years at D’Youville Pavilion in Lewiston. Madeline’s family would like to extend their deepest gratitude to the staff at D’Youville for their tender loving care of our family matriarch.
Madeline was predeceased by her father, Chester May; mother Adeline Bragdon; sister Barbara Lavalley; son Bryan Doughty; husband Bernard Doughty; son-in-law Lester “Sonny” Snow; step-daughters Bernita Murphy and June Brown; and step-son Bernard Colin Doughty.
Madeline is survived by her siblings Melvin “Bud” May, Benjamin May, and Margaret Litrocapes; Children Linda L. Doughty, Alan Doughty & Crystal Jackson, and Duane Doughty & Linda Statz Doughty; her grandchildren Adrea Quirion, Erin Dwinell & Dalton Dwinell, Christopher Doughty & Gabby Crisafulli Doughty, Matthew Doughty, and Rebecca Fecteau & John-Paul Fecteau; and great-grandchildren Elliot, Maria, and Ryder.
A visitation and remembrance service will be held at Wilson’s Funeral Home in Gray on Thursday, December 7, from 5:00-7:00pm, with a graveside committal service to be held Friday at Gloucester Hill Cemetery, December 8, at 10:00am. In lieu of flowers, contributions may be made in Madeline’s memory to the Greater Androscoggin Humane Society, 55 Strawberry Avenue, Lewiston, Maine.