Pamela Cousins Grant, 87, passed away on Wednesday, August 18, 2021 in Yarmouth, Maine,
after a long and feisty battle with cancer.
Born in Margate, Kent, England to Ivy Fellows Cousins and Arthur Harold Ernest Cousins on
June 15, 1934, Pamela grew up in the garden county of Kent, England and ever the cheeky
one, loved to listen under the table at tea to all her aunts, uncles and cousins speak of the
gardens, farming, the latest fashions, traveling to distant lands to fight, and sometimes tickle
their legs to make them smile-a difficult task during those challenging WW2 times.
Watching with wonder the ever-increasing battleships off the coast, climbing the fenced and
cordoned-off beaches to ‘chat up’ the brave soldiers, who loved to see her smiling face and
pretty dresses, and daring precociousness - before they escorted her back and away from
such dangerous places. She spoke of her sadness and confusion at seeing those who had
passed at sea, washed up on the shore, and helped to feed the many weary at teatime or in
any way cheer the folks up.
She loved music, and was primarily taught by her father, Dickie, a grand pianist himself, ( a
butcher, a member of the RAF and a sharp one for betting on the ponies!) and also having a
few lessons, she became a marvelous pianist, and played for many, eventually owning her own
baby grand piano in Weston, Connecticut.
As her dad was employed as a butcher, and later would be away from time to time with the
RAF, she spent much time with her mum, Ivy, who also worked during the war; learning to cook
on shortened rations, sewing, caring for her baby sister, and learning to hold hands tight and
make for the bomb shelters when sirens rang out.
Having excelled at her schooling, she continued on to Thanet University, obtaining her degree
and worked as a legal secretary. Always a lover of beautiful things and places, she traveled to
Switzerland, Italy, France, Scotland, and later Spain, the Caribbean and many other places,
making friends all along the way.
In the early 1950s on New Year's Eve at Dreamland Dance Club in Margate, England while
attending with friends, she met Ronald Allison Grant-the dashing yank of Scottish ancestry. In
his words, “I found the most beautiful girl, who had won the waltzing contest, and a very large
bottle of champagne...having watched her all evening I knew she was the one for me”.
Even though separated by his time in the Air Force, they were soon engaged to be married and
when times were safe, she traveled by ship ‘Queen Elizabeth’, to America with her parents and
sister to be wed on May 14,1955 in Hartford, Connecticut.
They lived and worked there, playing bridge with their friends and family, and how happy she
was she when her parents finally moved to America! Much fun was had at Dickie and Ivy’s
house in Old Saybrook on the sea. They did eventually return to the Uk, but Maureen moved
here and stayed, to the delight of her sister. Pam was proud of her English heritage, yet once
she became a US citizen, would always say “I am an American!”
After both children were in school full time, Pam learned to drive, eventually owning her first
car, a blue Nova. Delighting in the many American in-laws and their families, she spent as
much time visiting with them as possible, often remarking on how wonderful it was to have so
many relatives so close and in three countries.
Pam and Ron moved several times throughout Connecticut, Michigan, and moved to Maine in
1976 with their two children where she assisted her husband in developing new companies, as
treasurer and comptroller. Pam also spent many years on the Gulf Coast of Florida with Ron in
the twilight of their time together.
A voracious reader, crossword puzzle solver, card player and wonderful cook; wherever she
went Pam always shared her smile, fondness for her heritage, a gracious word, a straight cut
answer, unparalleled generosity and a sincere caring for all around her.
She will be greatly missed.
She is survived by her loving children Dian Grant, Gray, Alan Grant and wife Heidi, North
Yarmouth, her sister Maureen Cousins, Portland, her grandchildren Holly Hazzard and
husband Matt Eisnor, Salem, Massachusetts, Conner Grant, Somerville, Massachusetts, Ian
Grant, North Yarmouth, great-grandson Danny Capano and many nieces, nephews, family and
friends in America, England and Scotland.
She is pre-deceased by her parents, her beloved husband of 61 years Ronald, and her
granddaughter Samantha Hazzard Capano.
A memorial visitation service will be held Friday August 27, 2021 at Wilsons Funeral Home 26 Shaker
Road, Gray, Maine from 4-7pm, with a gathering to follow at 55 Mountain View Road, Gray,
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